http://blog.jpoetry.com/2005/07/16/community-barbecue/ ein Blog der Jpoetry.net Fantasieburg Tue, 08 Mar 2011 19:05:10 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 http://blog.jpoetry.com/2005/07/16/community-barbecue/comment-page-1/#comment-19 Dear Ladies and Gentlemen, my fellow crawlbots… » Blog Archive » Lets Talk Thu, 01 Sep 2005 22:16:06 +0000 http://blog.jpoetry.com/?p=31#comment-19 [...] New media communication is much more carefree than face to face - The fact that in the new media communication, people do not have to face each other directly during they talk, the things they say are often said much more carefree. That is sometimes very good, especially when I think of all the mails I had with Hannah, who once was a very good friend of mine, when I had a lot of emotional trouble. Back then I was able to talk freely without being embarressed. Its hard for me to do that in moments of talking face to face. I remember many moments, when I wanted to tell somebody something important, but couldn’t, because I didn’t dare to talk in that situation. I always had to force myself or took the new media way as a fallback. When I look at this, I am a little sad about it, because I like to talk to people, who understand what I am saying very mucht. Especially when I can trust them. Likewise there are easily made vituerpations on new media communications, because we often do not fear the reaction. If we do not want to be confronted with the reaction of the opposite side, we just turn off our mobile, disconnect the computer or hang up. Mails may be deleted unread, IM contacs can be ignored etc. I suppose, we often loose sight of the fact that there (until now) always is a real human on the other side, who can be hurt by words (some more easily than others), actions or just silence. A few months ago, I talked about trouble in the LugX, where a lot of mails were exchanged in a rapidfire discussion. 90% of them were impertinent and totally off topic insults. I was very surprised, ’cause I hadn’t seen this kind of behaviour in the reallife meetings. I think this, and some discussions and shortsighted IRC insult battles (just join a linux channel on freenode IRC and say “I use vi, emacs sucks”. You will probably witness one of the oldest Top10 Flamewars in new media communication, the battle about which editor (vi oder emacs) is best) are one of the best examples for this. Who would do this during a conference? … I don’t know. [...] [...] New media communication is much more carefree than face to face – The fact that in the new media communication, people do not have to face each other directly during they talk, the things they say are often said much more carefree. That is sometimes very good, especially when I think of all the mails I had with Hannah, who once was a very good friend of mine, when I had a lot of emotional trouble. Back then I was able to talk freely without being embarressed. Its hard for me to do that in moments of talking face to face. I remember many moments, when I wanted to tell somebody something important, but couldn’t, because I didn’t dare to talk in that situation. I always had to force myself or took the new media way as a fallback. When I look at this, I am a little sad about it, because I like to talk to people, who understand what I am saying very mucht. Especially when I can trust them. Likewise there are easily made vituerpations on new media communications, because we often do not fear the reaction. If we do not want to be confronted with the reaction of the opposite side, we just turn off our mobile, disconnect the computer or hang up. Mails may be deleted unread, IM contacs can be ignored etc. I suppose, we often loose sight of the fact that there (until now) always is a real human on the other side, who can be hurt by words (some more easily than others), actions or just silence. A few months ago, I talked about trouble in the LugX, where a lot of mails were exchanged in a rapidfire discussion. 90% of them were impertinent and totally off topic insults. I was very surprised, ’cause I hadn’t seen this kind of behaviour in the reallife meetings. I think this, and some discussions and shortsighted IRC insult battles (just join a linux channel on freenode IRC and say “I use vi, emacs sucks”. You will probably witness one of the oldest Top10 Flamewars in new media communication, the battle about which editor (vi oder emacs) is best) are one of the best examples for this. Who would do this during a conference? … I don’t know. [...]

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